Cheesy Bait

If you use cheese as bait you'll catch a rat. 

I was talking to a friend the other day, and he was going on about how he can't get married to a Nigerian woman, they're too materialistic, he can't empty his whole account to keep a woman happy, yada yada yada. You know the drill, I'm sure most of you know the conversation and have had a similar one with your friends. I have had it several times, hence this post.

I'm really sorry to break it to all you men out there (and I'll come to the ladies later, do not fret), but if you use cheese as bait you are GUARANTEED to catch a rat (I didn't say mouse, rat- a stinky uncouth rat). If you go around popping bottles, driving flash cars, spending money like your account is a bottomless pit, buying the same expensive watch in all the colours it comes in, dropping your black card to pick up every bill, etc, etc. If you are doing all that stuff then of course you are going to attract a gold digging, materialistic 'lady'. You are EXACTLY what this sort of woman is looking for, so she has simply just walked into your trap. If you can afford a Gwagon, you can afford her birkin bags, if you can pay half a mil on a night out you can afford her Brazilian hair, if you have a black card you can afford a house in banana island, with top of the range cars, a maid from the Philippines for the kids she will soon have, if you go around flashing your handmade xxx suit, then you can afford her bimonthly first class trips to London, New York, and Milan for a shopping spree. You put your cheese on display, and she came out to grab it.

I am growing fast tired of this generalisation, assumption that all Nigerian women are all materialistic, gold diggers. As much as I can agree that there are a fair amount of women that fit this profile, there are also a fair few women that don't - decent, well mannered, virtuous, and wise women. If you happen to find yourself surrounded by these materialistic women then I suggest you check yourself, before you generalise. Humility attracts humility and arrogance, flamboyance, ostentaceous adolescent display attracts materialistic, gold digging, and puffed up.

The same goes for women. 'We' complain that there are no decent Nigerian men. They all have a heightened perception of themselves, they think the sun shines out of their ***, they are not serious, all they do is party, drink, womanise, yada yada yada. Perhaps it's just where you're looking, who you're looking at, or who you attract because of who you are.

Xoxo